There is so much interesting and evolving research on how, why and when we make decisions. We are constantly learning new terms and ideas from many disciplines that centre themselves on the study of human behaviours. Terms like decision fatigue and decision avoidance.
This research has helped us to understand that many, if not the majority of us, will have made up to, and maybe over, 35,000 decisions in a single day. Everyday.
No wonder we can get to moments where we decide not to decide - we are tired of all the conscious and unconscious choices we have already made throughout a day. Added to which we then use unhelpful terms when considering ourselves and our decision making paths. Terms that identify some sort of deficit in ourselves, that don’t acknowledge the volume of decisions in in our modern lives and that do not serve us in any way to rise and grow and shine. Terms that tell us we are getting it wrong.
In the world of life coaching coaches learn tools and study ideas that support clarifying goals and then implementing behaviours empowering our clients to transform and create the lives of their dreams.
This will involve making decisions and then taking action on those decisions – tough when we are fatigued, avoiding and feeling like we are no good at making decisions.
And of course we humans are also concerned with making the right decision. You know the one – it holds all the control in our lives. It will determine how every subsequent aspect of our lives will unfold from that point forward. We better get this one right.
Hidden within this thought is another, even more powerful one, and when we really look at it we see that it is the thought that this decision is also our final decision – it has to be if it has the power to render irrelevant any future decisions we might make. That once we make this decision we will no longer be faced with responding to its results through another decision. Somehow we have it that the reason we have to get this one right is because it must be the last decision we will make.
So, we’re tired, we’re apprehensive about how we make decisions, and we have to get this one final decision, that will impact everything in our lives, right.
No wonder making a decision is such work.
When I began my path with life coaching the need to make this final, right decision came up in so many way – all of which were fear based and had me running away from choices when in reality what I needed was to run towards my choices.
And in order to do that, to understand clearly what choices I not only would run towards but that I would get unreasonable about creating in my life, meant journeying through layers of inquiry and reflection, fear and joy, allowing for both effort and ease on the way.
I came to a different understanding and way of seeing what I had been calling procrastination, stagnation, laziness, disengagement, powerlessness. So many words and ways to shame myself for unconscious, human responses.
And not a single one of those words would ever propel me into confident, joyful, curious decision-making; decision making that would actually serve my life.
I began to notice my emotions more and more and see clearly that those emotions were simply offering me information about the quality of my life. And I could decide if those were the emotions I wanted or if there were other ways of feeling that turning my attention towards would better serve to take me into an empowered, joyful, connected life.
Today I run towards every choice I can find because I see that they are all under my control. Today I cannot wait to get to the next and the next and the next. To decide again and again the choices that are in service to the creation of my one full, wild life.
You can do it. I can help.
Reach out for a free 60 minute consult to learn more.
I’m excited to see what you create.
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